Books/publications that serve as reference material for our various
Brian discusses quantum mechanics and
entanglement theory for laypersons; its implications when applied to
interpersonal communication are mind boggling.
For example: A proton that has been paired
with another and then separated (by
one foot or millions of miles) changes its "spin" to the spin of its partner
when is has simply been observed;* the couple (the
pair of protons) communicate with each other without wires or
radio waves or any known transmission medium. It just happens
automatically and instantaneously (as in faster than the speed of
light). Einstein referred to this phenomenon as "spooky."
* When you look at another they automatically, unconsciously, change the way they communicate (verbally, non-verbally, physically
and psychically) so as to interact/survive/grow in your presence. A
resonance (an exchange of information) takes place between you.
i.e. When one meets the Dalai Lama they automatically, unconsciously,
open themselves to his emanations, his aura; observing (experiencing) him you become
his "spin" (you non-verbally acknowledge his enlightened presentation
and he non-verbally acknowledges yours; he communicates appropriate
to where you are on your path.).
Entanglement explains the phenomenon in play when one partner
decides to withhold a thought from the other on their first date;
what's not commonly known is that it automatically
(instantaneously) creates the other withholding his/her thought of
choice. In other words, withholding a significant** thought determines whether or
not you'll be relating with someone of similar values (a similar
For example: Let's assume that before you met your partner you
used to operate from integrity, you could be trusted to communicate
openly, honestly, and spontaneously most of the time, and that when
you met your partner they too were equally candid. And then, you
opted (consciously chose) to withhold a thought from them (herpes,
AIDs, prior abusive relationship,
dysfunctional family)—usually a
deal-breaker on the first date, always for
a "good" reason. The effect this had was that immediately
(instantaneously), without them even knowing why, they found
themselves withholding a thought from you. In other words, you
changed their value (the direction of spin so to speak) simply by
observing them, by resonating, by being "in-tune" with them by communicating with them. To survive in your
presence they had no choice other than to "spin" as you do.
The book compliments the premise that communication is a function
of intention, not words, that communication is generated (called
potential (euphemistically referred to as space) whereas talking (that which we do
99.9% of the time) comes from some thing, the mind.
** "significant" meaning, a thought
you choose to withhold because you know it will cause an upset, or
anger, or worse. Fleeting insignificant, non-reoccurring, thoughts are not withholds.
Aware Baby —Aletha Jauch Solter
The essence of the book: When your baby is crying intend for
him/her to cry; this, rather than try to get him/her to stop.
are integrity meters: At the moment of conception (sentience) a baby
inherits the "incompletes"
and the karma of the combined personal integrity of both parents.
The baby is then, throughout pregnancy, exposed to everything, all
communications (verbal, non-verbal, physical, and psychic emanations)
that take place between parents—all media broadcasts (the condition of the
planet and its wars), all communications—the loving communications
and all the unconscious put-downs, make-wrongs, and condescensions
between parents (abuses that have yet to be verbally acknowledged
and therefore completed).
A baby can sense when one parent is withholding something (a
thought or perpetration that affects the space between the parents).
It bothers the baby because the withhold is serving as a barrier to
the experience of love—the harmonious vibrations, the way it was at
least once before (for many couples it was the mindless euphoria during
the conception climax).
When the experience of love is missing between the three it
upsets the baby. A baby does whatever it takes to restore the
experience of integrity (love). Crying is one way of drawing
attention to an out-integrity—be it the wars, the unresolved
squabbles or the dissatisfactions and thoughts being withheld between
parents. Shushing or distracting (pacifier, bouncing, etc.) causes
the baby to stuff the upset, the anger, the incomplete, until later,
typically during the teenage years when a child can communicate
resentments and disrespcets (albeit, mostly non-verbally, mirroring
the parent's addiction to blaming).
Sometimes misbehaving, failing, or getting sick is the only way to
draw attention to the out-integrity of the parents, the fact that
the child is not in-communication with anyone.
A baby who is lovingly supported in crying, expressing sadness,
grief, or rage, won't have to dramatize such incompletes later as an
The Intention Experiment —Lynne McTaggart
"Using Your Thoughts to Change Your Life and the World"
An engaging participatory book that examines with the reader the
affects of intention on matter. It leaves no doubt in one's mind
that thoughts do have an effect, on oneself, on others, on all living things and on supposedly
The book describes the amazing research (with surprising
results) that has been done with
remote healing—the receiver in one city, the healer in another.
And, what many gamblers already know—how your mind can affect the
roll of dice.
The book includes exercises pertaining to intention and an
opportunity to participate (via the Internet) in world-wide
experiments having to do with intention.
A must for anyone intent on mastering communication.
Additional thoughts about remote healing research.*
New Model of Integrity —
An Actionable Pathway
to Trust, Productivity and Value —Werner Erhard (founder of est Erhard
Seminars Training, an Independent), Michael C. Jenson (Harvard
Business School), Steven Zaffron (Vanto Group, The Forum)
The Harvard Law School’s Seminar in Law, Economics, and
Michael Jensen and Werner
Erhard presented a paper on integrity that they co-authored with
The presentation of the paper was given in 2007. The paper is not
written for the lay person however its significance cannot be
underestimated. It represents a shift in consciousness within
academia, at the very top. It's possibly the first time such a
prestigious body of intellects, other than professional workshop
facilitators, have acknowledged integrity as a
variable, one that affects all outcomes.
"In summary, we show that defining integrity as honoring one's
text of the presentation.
text of the paper.
thoughts about remote healing research:
Feedback about intention
research described by Lynne McTaggart in her book The Intention Experiment.
Lynne's book describes numerous researches about remote healing (healing via intention/prayer),
how plants "cringe" when intentionally threatened but not when they
discover it's just an experiment. The results
are surprising. The book reveals that it's extremely difficult to
measure the effectiveness of healers be they a Reiki practitioner, a
psychic, or a cleric sending prayers. The following feedback
discusses some fundamental communication principles as they apply to
In experiments attempting to discover what’s so about remote
healing via intention there are four intentions that
affect an outcome;
- the conscious and unconscious intentions of the healer
conscious and unconscious intentions of the
recipient (the ailing person)
conscious and unconscious intentions of the researcher (ostensibly the unbiased
conscious and unconscious intentions of you the reader—as the ostensibly unbiased
observer, the believer—your thoughts about the
possibility of remote healing. Yes, as always you have an effect
on what's "happening" around you.
It could be said that in all instances of failed healings
the healer and recipient were at cross-purposes; there was no
experience of alignment, of communication. Actually, communication
did take place; both the healer and the receiver communicated [non-verbally] to the other,
"We need to have more communications to produce healing. There are
too many considerations in the space." Unacknowledged
serve as barriers to the experience of communication, of manifesting
ones stated intentions.
For example: If the receiver's illness began
after they blamed their ex for
cheating and they haven't acknowledged to their ex, or
themselves, that it was abusive to blame/badmouth them, then
it's possible that the source of the illness is a consequence of an unacknowledged
perpetration; in which case, permanent healing can't take place until the
receiver acknowledges his/her cause in the matter. Conversely, if the
healer (doctor) doesn't get into communication with the recipient
(patient) and support
him/her in recalling what thoughts come to mind about the source of
illness (what it might/could be about) then the healer is ignoring the
unconscious intention of the receiver—to be acknowledged for a
previous unacknowledged abuse or for life's unacknowledged
perpetrations. The premise being: Life's
unacknowledged perpetrations have consequences effecting ones
aliveness, ones outcomes, eventually one's very
health. These unacknowledged
perpetrations are referred to as
incompletes. Incompletes serve as
barriers to communication, to manifesting ones stated intentions.
"Stated" here meaning that what one says they want is often a lie
(more accurately, it's just a want). i.e. I say I want to have
six-pack abs again but I still have a pot belly. In other words, I
have yet to formulate an intention to manifest six-pack abs.
While it is natural to assume that a healer’s intention is always
to heal, we can only be certain of this when healing takes place. A
healer discovers his/her intention by looking at the results. As
pertains to entanglement theory, the healer determines the
of the receiver, no matter the distance, by observing. The healer
cannot know the outcome until they observe it. To know the outcome
is to be clear about ones intentions; to do this one must be able to
recreate the receiver’s intention, (his/her communications).
A researcher merely discovers what they (the researcher) intended but did not know
they intended until they tallied the results. They must begin with
the acknowledgment that they cannot conduct unbiased research, that
they have an unconscious agenda discovered only at the end.
The majority of inventors acknowledge that their invention
was an accident, they did not set out to invent their
invention, rather they were experimenting and "it" just
When a person is experiencing poor health he/she has most always spent a lifetime manifesting this condition (cancer, back pain,
migraine headaches, etc.). Seldom are they aware that the aliment is
a manifestation of their intention, most always an expression of
their integrity. The ailment serves a purpose. It supports
one in first cleaning up life’s incompletes and perpetrations so as
to eliminate integrity as possibly being the cause, the source of
the unwanted condition.
If the recipient lies (to themselves or the healer) and says they
want to heal when in fact they haven’t gotten to the source, its
cause, then it's unlikely that permanent healing will take place.
i.e. The remission/reoccurring cycle.
If a healer has yet to master communication, if he/she does not
have the ability to create an experience of communication (open,
honest, and spontaneous communication, zero significant thoughts withheld) with
the recipient, then the results will reveal the unconscious
intentions of both.
Many enablers have tried to "heal" an alcoholic only to discover
later that they [the enabler] were unconscious and could not recreate the alcoholic’s
non-verbal communications, specifically, that he/she had no intention
of healing. Interestingly, at the start of the healing
agreement/program both honestly and sincerely believed that they
were intent on succeeding.
This feedback supports the communication model in which intention
is determined by the results. For example: If a friend doesn't
return a tool per their "agreement" then no matter what I believe,
or the words used when creating the agreement, it was not my
intention for the tool to be returned on time. With this model there
is no blame. In truth, I only created the
illusion of an agreement. When
agreements are co-created (communicated) they are honored (here's
more about agreements).
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