Books/publications that serve as reference material for our various
The God Effect —Brian Clegg
Brian discusses quantum mechanics and
entanglement theory using lay language; its implications when applied to
interpersonal communication are mind boggling.
A proton that has been paired with another and is then separated (by
one foot or millions of miles) changes its spin when its partner has
been observed; they communicate with each other without wires or
radio waves or any known transmission medium. It just happens
automatically and instantaneously (as in faster than the speed of
light). Einstein referred to this phenomenon as "spooky."
Entanglement explains the phenomenon in which once one partner
decides to withhold a thought from the other, it automatically
(instantaneously) creates the other withholding his/her thought of
choice. In other words, withholding a thought determines whether or
not you'll be relating with someone of similar values.
For example: Let's assume that before you met your partner you
used to operate from integrity, you could be trusted to communicate
openly, honestly, and spontaneously most of the time, and that when
you met your partner they too were equally candid. And then, you
opted (consciously chose) to withhold a thought from them—always for
a "good" reason. The effect this had was that immediately
(instantaneously), without them even knowing why, they found
themselves withholding a thought from you. In other words, you
changed their value (the direction of spin so to speak) simply by
observing them, by communicating with them. To survive in your
presence they had no choice but to "spin" as you do.
The book compliments the premise that communication is a function
of intention, not words, that communication is generated (called
potential (euphemistically referred to as space) whereas talking (that which we do
99.9% of the time) comes from some thing, the mind.
The Aware Baby —Aletha Jauch Solter
One of the few books that truly effects behavior. Although it
appears to be about parenting it applies to all interpersonal
interactions. The fundamental principles for relating with children, parents,
grandparents, and others are the same.
The essence of the book: When your baby is crying intend for
him/her to cry; this, rather than try to get him/her to stop. Babies are integrity
meters. At the moment of conception (sentience) a baby inherits the
of both parents. He/she is then, throughout pregnancy, exposed to everything, all conversations, verbal and
nonverbal, that take place between parents, all news reports (the
condition of the planet and its wars), all communications—the loving
communications and all the
unconscious put-downs, make-wrongs, and condescensions between parents.
A baby can sense when one parent is withholding something (a thought or
perpetration). It bothers the baby because the withhold is serving
as a barrier to the experience of love—the way it was at least once
before. When the experience of love is missing between the three it
hurts. A baby does whatever it takes to restore the experience of
integrity (love). Crying is one way of drawing attention to an
out-integrity—be it the wars or the unresolved squabbles/disatisfactions between
parents. Shushing or distracting (pacifier, bouncing, etc.) causes the baby to
stuff the upset, the anger, the incomplete, until later, typically
during the teenage years. Sometimes
getting sick or misbehaving is the only way to draw attention to the
out-integrity of a parent.
A baby who is lovingly supported in crying, expressing sadness,
grief, or rage, won't have to dramatize such emotions later as an adult.
The Intention Experiment —Lynne McTaggart
"Using Your Thoughts to Change Your Life and the World"
An engaging participatory book that examines with the reader the effects of
intention on matter. It leaves no doubt in one's mind that thoughts
do have an effect, on oneself, and others, and on supposedly
The book describes the amazing research (with surprising
results) that's been done with
remote healing—the receiver in one city, the healer in another.
And, what many gamblers already know—how your mind can effect the
roll of dice.
The book includes exercises pertaining to intention and an
opportunity to participate (via the Internet) in world-wide
experiments having to do with intention.
A must for anyone intent on mastering communication.
Additional thoughts about remote healing research.*
A New Model of Integrity: An Actionable Pathway
to Trust, Productivity and Value —Werner Erhard (founder of est Erhard
Seminars Training, an Independent), Michael C. Jenson (Harvard
Business School), Steven Zaffron (Vanto Group, The Forum)
The Harvard Law School’s Seminar in Law, Economics, and
Michael Jensen and Werner
Erhard presented a paper on integrity that they co-authored with
The presentation of the paper was given in 2007. The paper is not
written for the lay person however its significance cannot be
underestimated. It represents a shift in consciousness within
academia, at the very top. It's possibly the first time such a
prestigious body of intellects, other than professional workshop
facilitators, have acknowledged integrity as a
"In summary, we show that defining integrity as honoring one's
text of the presentation.
text of the paper.
thoughts about remote healing research:
Feedback about intention
research described by Lynne McTaggart in her book The Intention Experiment
The book describes numerous researches about remote healing (healing via intention). The results
are surprising. The book reveals that it's extremely difficult to
measure the effectiveness of healers be they a Reiki practitioner, a
psychic, or a minister sending prayers. The following feedback
discusses some fundamental communication principles as they apply to
In experiments attempting to discover what’s so about remote
healing via intention there are four intentions that
affect an outcome;
- the intention of the healer
- the intention of the
recipient (the ailing person)
- the intention of the researcher
- you the reader's intention (where you are about the
possibility of remote healing). Yes, as always you have an effect
on what's "happening" around you.
It could be said that in all instances of failed healings
the healer and recipient were at cross-purposes; there was no
experience of alignment, of communication. Actually, communication
did take place; both the healer and the receiver communicated [non-verbally] to the other,
"We need to have more communications to produce healing. There are
too many considerations in the space." Unacknowledged
serve as barriers to the experience of communication, of manifesting
ones stated intentions.
For example: If the receiver's illness began
after they blamed their ex for
cheating and they haven't acknowledged to their ex, or
themselves, that it was abusive of them to blame/badmouth another, then
it's possible that the illness is a consequence of an unacknowledged
perpetration; in which case permanent healing can't take place until the
receiver acknowledges his/her cause in the matter. Conversely, if the
healer doesn't get into communication with the recipient and support
the him/her in recalling what thoughts come to mind about the
illness (what it might be about) then the healer is ignoring the
unconscious intention of the receiver to be acknowledged for a
previous unacknowledged abuse or for life's unacknowledged
perpetrations. The premise being: Life's
unacknowledged perpetrations have consequences effecting ones
aliveness, eventually one's very
health. These unacknowledged
perpetrations are referred to as
incompletes. Incompletes serve as
barriers to communication, to manifesting ones stated intentions.
"Stated" here meaning that what one says they want is often a lie
(more accurately, it's just a want). i.e. I say I want to have
six-pack abs again but I still have a pot belly. In other words, I
have yet to formulate an intention to manifest six-pack abs.
While it is natural to assume that a healer’s intention is always
to heal, we can only be certain of this when healing takes place. A
healer discovers his/her intention by looking at the results. As
pertains to entanglement theory, the healer determines the
of the receiver, no matter the distance, by observing. The healer
cannot know the outcome until they observe it. To know the outcome
is to be clear about ones intentions; to do this one must be able to
recreate the receiver’s intention, (his/her communications).
A researcher merely discovers what they (the researcher) intended but did not know
they intended until they tally the results. They must begin with
the acknowledgment that they cannot conduct unbiased research, that
they have an unconscious agenda discovered only at the end.
When a person is experiencing poor health, he/she has most always
spent a lifetime manifesting this condition (cancer, back pain,
migraine headaches, etc.). Seldom are they aware that the aliment is
a manifestation of their intention, most always an expression of
their integrity. The ailment serves a purpose. It supports one in
first cleaning up life’s incompletes and perpetrations so as to
eliminate integrity as possibly being the source of the unwanted
If the recipient lies (to themselves or the healer) and says they
want to heal when in fact they haven’t gotten to the source, the
cause, then it's unlikely that permanent healing will take place.
If a healer has yet to master communication, if he/she does not
have the ability to create an experience of communication (open,
honest, and spontaneous communication, zero thoughts withheld) with
the recipient, then the results will reveal the unconscious
intentions of both.
Many enablers have tried to "heal" an alcoholic only to discover
later that they were unconscious and could not recreate the alcoholic’s
non-verbal communications, specifically, that he/she had no intention
of healing. Interestingly, at the start of the healing
agreement/program both honestly and sincerely believed that they
were intent on succeeding.
This feedback uses the communication model in which intention is
determined by the results. For example: If a friend doesn't return a
tool per their "agreement" then no matter what I believe, or the words
used when creating the agreement, it was not my intention for the
tool to be returned on time. With this model there is no blame. In
truth, I only created an "imitation of an agreement." When
agreements are co-created (communicated) they are honored (here's
more about agreements).
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