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References:
Books/publications that serve as reference material for our various
tutorials.
quantum
The God Effect —Brian Clegg
Brian discusses in layman terms quantum mechanics pertaining to
entanglement theory; its implications when applied to
interpersonal communication are mind boggling.
For example:
A proton that has been paired with another and is then separated (by
one foot or millions of miles) changes its spin when its partner has
been observed; they communicate with each other without wires or
radio waves or any known transmission medium. It just happens
automatically and instantaneously (as in faster than the speed of
light). Einstein referred to this phenomenon as "spooky."
The book compliments the premise that communication is a function
of intention, not words, that communication is generated (called
forth-created) from
potential (euphemistically referred to as space) whereas talking (that which we do
99.9% of the time) comes from some thing, the mind.
Simply inspiring!
crying
The Aware Baby —Aletha Jauch Solter
One of the few books that truly effects behavior. Although it
appears to be about parenting it applies to all interpersonal
interactions. The fundamental principles for relating with children, parents,
grandparents, and others are the same.
The essence of the book: When your baby is crying intend for
him/her to cry, this, rather than try to get it to stop. Babies are integrity
meters. At the moment of conception (sentience) a baby inherits the
incompletes
of both parents. He/she is then, throughout pregnancy, exposed to everything, all conversations, verbal and
nonverbal, that take place between parents, and all news reports (the
condition of the planet and its wars), all communications—the loving
communications and all the
unconscious put-downs, make-wrongs, and condescensions between parents.
A baby can sense when one parent is withholding something (a thought or
perpetration). It bothers the baby because the withhold is serving
as a barrier to the experience of love —the way it was at least once
before. When the experience of love is missing between the three it
hurts. A baby does whatever it takes to restore the experience of
integrity (love). Crying is one way of drawing attention to an
out-integrity—be it the wars or the unresolved squabbles between
parents. Shushing or distracting causes the baby to
stuff the upset, the anger, the incomplete, until later, typically
during the teen age years. Sometimes
getting sick or misbehaving is the only way to draw attention to the
out integrity of a parent.
A baby who is lovingly supported in crying, expressing sadness,
grief, or rage, won't have to dramatize such emotions later as an adult.
intention
The Intention Experiment —Lynne McTaggart
"Using Your Thoughts to Change Your Life and the World"
A participatory book that examines with the reader the effects of
intention on matter. It leaves no doubt in one's mind that thoughts
do have an effect, on oneself, and others, and on supposedly
inanimate objects.
The books describes the amazing research (with surprising
results) that's been done with
remote healing, the receiver in one city, the healer in another.
And, what many gamblers already know, how your mind can effect the
roll of dice.
The book includes exercises pertaining to intention and an
opportunity to participate (via the Internet) in world-wide
experiments having to do with intention.
A must for anyone intent on mastering communication.
Additional thoughts about the research about remote healing.*
integrity
A New Model of Integrity: An Actionable Pathway
to Trust, Productivity and Value —Werner Erhard (founder of est Erhard
Seminars Training, an Independent), Michael C. Jenson (Harvard
Business School), Steven Zaffron (Vanto Group, The Forum)
The Harvard Law School’s Seminar in Law, Economics, and
Organization, Professor
Michael Jensen and Werner
Erhard presented a paper on integrity that they co-authored with
Steve Zaffron.
The presentation of the paper was given in 2007. The paper is not
written for the lay person however its significance cannot be
underestimated. It represents a shift in consciousness within
academia, at the very top. It's possibly the first time such a
prestigious body of intellects, other than professional workshop
facilitators, have acknowledged integrity as a communication
variable.
"In summary, we show that defining integrity as honoring one's
word."
Read the
text of the presentation.
Read the
text of the paper.
feedback
* Feedback about the intention
research described by Lynne McTaggart in her book The Intention Experiment
The book describes in detail the numerous researches that have
been done about remote healing (healing via intention). The results
are surprising. The book reveals that it's extremely difficult to
measure the effectiveness of healers be they a Reiki practitioner, a
psychic, or a minister sending prayers. This feedback
discusses some fundamental communication principles as they apply to
healing.
In research experiments attempting to discover what’s so about
intention through remote healing there are three intentions that
affect an outcome; the intention of the healer, the intention of the
recipient (the ailing person), and the intention of the researcher.
It could be said that in all instances of failed healings
the healer and recipient were at cross purposes; there was no
experience of alignment, of communication. More accurately, communication
did take place; both communicated nonverbally to the other,
"We need to have more communications to produce healing. There are
too many considerations in the space." Unacknowledged considerations
serve as barriers to the experience of communication.
For example: If the receiver's illness began
(their health never fully recovered) when they blamed their ex for
cheating and they haven't acknowledged to their spouse, or
themselves, that that was abusive of them to blame another, then
it's possible that the illness is a consequence of an unacknowledged
perpetration; in which case healing can't take place until the
receiver acknowledges their cause in the matter. Conversely, if the
healer doesn't get into communication with the recipient and support
the recipient in recalling what thoughts come to mind about the
illness (what it might be about) then the healer is ignoring the
unconscious intention of the receiver, to be acknowledged for a
previous unacknowledged abuse. The premise being, that life's
unacknowledged perpetrations have consequences effecting ones
aliveness, eventually their very health. These unacknowledged
perpetrations are referred to as incompletes. Incompletes serve as
barriers to communication, to manifesting ones intentions.
While it is natural to assume that a healer’s intention is always
to heal, we can only be certain of this when healing takes place. A
healer discovers his/her intention by looking at the results. As
pertains to entanglement theory, the healer determines the valance
of the receiver, no matter the distance, by observing. The healer
cannot know the outcome until they observe it. To know the outcome
is to be clear about ones intentions; to do this one much be able to
recreate the receiver’s condition (his/her communications).
A researcher merely discovers what they intended but did not know
they intended until they tallied the results. They must begin with
the acknowledgment that they cannot conduct unbiased research, that
they have an unconscious agenda discovered only at the end.
When a person is experiencing poor health, he/she has most always
spent a lifetime manifesting this condition (cancer, back pain,
migraine headaches, etc.). They are seldom aware that the aliment is
a manifestation of their intention, most always an expression of
their integrity. The ailment serves a purpose. It supports one in
first cleaning up life’s incompletes and perpetrations so as to
eliminate integrity as possibly being the source of the unwanted
condition.
If the recipient lies (to themselves or the healer) and says they
want to heal when in fact they haven’t gotten to the source, the
cause, then it's unlikely that permanent healing will take place.
If a healer has yet to master communication, if he/she does not
have the ability to create an experience of communication (open,
honest, and spontaneous communication, zero thoughts withheld) with
the recipient, then the results will reveal the unconscious
intentions of both.
Many enablers have tried to "heal" an alcoholic only to discover
that they were unconscious and could not recreate the alcoholic’s
nonverbal communications, specifically, that they had no intention
of healing. Interestingly, at the start of the healing
agreement/program both honestly and sincerely believed that they
were intent on succeeding.
This feedback uses the communication model in which intention is
determined by the results. For example: If a friend doesn't return a
tool per our "agreement" then no matter what I believe, or the words
used when creating the agreement, it was not my intention for the
tool to be returned on time. With this model there is no blame. In
truth, I only created an "imitation of an agreement." When
agreements are co-created (communicated) they are honored (here's
more about agreements).
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