communicating/getting emotions: Interacting daily with anger, upset and thwarting disrespect can have two effects. It can drag you down and make you calloused, hardened and resentful, or it can uplift and enlighten you. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, On Death and Dying, said, genuine anger communicated lasts about ten seconds, whereas dramatized anger, anger that's not addressing the truth of what the anger is about, lasts longer, sometimes years. Most people have forgotten the conversation that set in their original anger so they don't know how to get to the truth of it to disappear it. These energy-sapping quiet, grumpy, sullen, moody,  unhappy-looking people cannot experience happiness because their unacknowledged anger serves as a barrier to the experience of communication. Getting a person's anger or reacting to it produces two different results. When you get another's anger, they no longer have it. They are gotten. You have disappeared it for them. Until you have completed your own experiences of anger (most of which you have hidden even from yourself) all others around you must dramatize your incompleteness. They have no choice. A person who has completed his/her experience of anger is a safe space for mutually satisfying communication. Return to | Home Page | Overview: Topics | Registration |