managing/training your managers: Your job is to manage your managers. There is a way to provide feedback, suggestions, reminders, and corrections to your superiors that works. What's also true is, your thoughts of disrespect, petty dislikes, and negative judgments, get communicated nonverbally. Silence condones and sabotages. Stuffed thoughts pile up. They actually begin to sap your aliveness. Thoughts withheld create a barrier to the experience of relationship/team. Quite often negative judgments get carried home and dumped in a spouse's space. A spouse can end up not liking others in your department never having met them due to your unconscious badmouthing. When a spouse does not support you in telling the other what you've told them the spouse becomes a co-conspirator of the badmouthing in the department. That is to say, a spouse can unconsciously thwart the department. What they should say is, "It doesn't feel good to hear you badmouth ____ like that, please tell it to his/her face." On the other hand, if you don't share things with your spouse, always for "good" reasons, communication breaks down and the experiences of love become fewer and further apart. Without your open and honest feedback the department will settle into mediocrity. Without your spouse's feedback, especially if it's not elicited, valued, and when possible acted upon, the department and all your relationships will settle into exhausting energy-sapping mediocrity. Your spouse is one of your managers. Return to | Home Page | Overview: Topics | Registration |