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about
About
the tutorial:
The tutorial is designed to accelerate the
communication mastery process. It will empower you
in producing the results you say you want for
yourself and others.
The tutorial presents a topic for you to read.
You read the topic and post your feedback/comments
about it on a password-protected tutorial message board. The
tutorial coach
posts feedback about your post and provides personal
communication skills
coaching.
What happens is:
Without having to memorize anything, without
having to change or be different, or say things
differently, you will find yourself automatically
communicating and relating effectively more often
thereafter, for life—such is the power of
communication.
Note from the
tutorial coach
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note
Note
from the tutorial coach:
No
matter your knowledge, understandings or
proficiencies, I can state with certainty that if
you complete the tutorial you will have a
transformed experience of self and of communication.
That is to say, it is virtually impossible for you
to complete the tutorial without it effecting you
and yours in a profound and positive way.
As a former Navy submariner and
Navy UDT ( now called
SEALs )
member, and as a retired US Army Infantry Airborne
Officer, I assure you the tutorial is on the cutting
edge of leadership/team training. It picks up where
university
speech/communication courses
leave off.
The tutorial supports you and your
intention to effect a highly organized ethical team
through your conversations with your spouse.
Behind every powerful leader is an equally powerful
leader called the supporter, who, by agreement,
stays in the shadows and empowers the out-front
leader. Serving one who serves sustains the
experience of health, prosperity, and love.
Your spouse requires and is counting on your input,
your intuition, your particular genius. Communicated
effectively your considerations will bring about the
kind of police force you know is possible.
Kerrith
H. (Kerry) King
Communication Skills Coach
PS. Among my job experiences as a
communication skills coach I have been
facilitating support groups for 30 years. The purpose of our support
groups is to master mutually satisfying
supportive communication. Each support group
member agrees to meet with nine support group participants every
other week for six-months. During that time
each participant agrees to honor all
agreements and to communicate openly, honestly
and spontaneously, zero thoughts withheld from
each other and immediate family. During the
two-week interval each member pairs off with
another and share their two week goals and
then support each other in having the goals done by
the next session. For a period of three-years
nonstop I met for three-hours each session, with the following groups, each
on a different night: The Women's Support
Group (2 groups, one on Mondays another on
Tuesdays), The MNGT (Monday Night Get-Together
for Managers) a different group alternate
Mondays), The Men's Support Group, The
Couple's Support Group, The Sales Support
Group, and the Family Support Group. Each
group consisted of ten participants, each
agreeing to a six-month commitment. Most
participants re-upped for several six-month
commitments. All participants are referred by
another.
Most recently I have been meeting every other
week for eleven (11) years with the
Businessperson's Support Group. I am pleased,
and quite frankly blown-away, to say that I
can count on one hand the number of times
anyone has been late, such is the commitment
to honoring one's agreements. One of the
agreements is to show up on time, no excuses
no reasons. Of interest—I spend three-hours
with each participant communicating the
agreements.
I'm honored to say that hundreds of support
group participants are scattered throughout
the islands, each now a leader, a facilitator
in his/her own social group, each setting
standards, each making significant
contributions to his/her community and to
Hawaii.
PPS. It's taken me 30 years to design
and implement the Communication Skills
Tutorial for Police and the Communication
Skills Tutorial for Police Spouse's. These
tutorials create a context from which to
operate that will inspire a community to live and operate from integrity. Based upon
thousands
of in-depth intimate conversations with
community members it's a given that
the integrity of a community is mirrored by
its police. In fact, a community cannot create new standards without the
leadership of its police. Hillary Clinton
writes that it takes a village; what's also
true is it only takes one law enforcement professional
and his/her supportive spouse to effect the
integrity of a community—so profound is
such a couple's impact that life is affected
for all with whom they relate. The context
they create sets the standards for the
community.
Caution:
Do not suggest the tutorial to your police
officer spouse if you think there is a remote
possibility that they would not value your
suggestion and act upon it. If you know or
intuit that they would glance at the tutorial
and find something wrong with it and decline
your suggestion, don't suggest it. Doing so
will reveal more than you are perhaps prepared
to confront. If your relationship is such that
they do not value your intuition, your input
and support, then you will be powerless to
create at will the experience of love through
intimate conversations. There are times when
an officer must surrender to his/her
spouse—doing the tutorial at your suggestion
is one of them. You know what's going on in
the department—to vote silently for more of
the same will cost you all that you say you
want in life. You cannot expect your children
to opt for integrity if you don't model it for
them. If you support your spouse in deceiving
others for "good" reasons, so too will your
child deceive you. Without your active support
your spouse cannot transform the department.
Put another way, do not suggest the tutorial
unless you are totally willing to not have the
relationship.
what
What are
the topics?
There are:
1) Three (3) required topics
2) Ten (10) optional
topics
3) You also may add one (1) additional
(optional) topic of
your own
4)
Clarifications of certain words used in every
communication mastery curriculum
The
three (3)
required topics are:
Responsibility
Agreements
Incompletes
The ten
(10) optional
are:
-
integrity - restoring/maintaining (
more
)
-
procrastination
and doing complete work (
more
)
-
open and honest
communication (
more
)
-
communicating/getting
emotions (
more
)
-
asking questions (
more
)
-
clearing and
emptying the mind (
more
)
-
more than you want to know about gossip
(
more
)
-
problem/creating and solving (
more
)
-
managing/training
your spouse (
more
)
-
effecting support
and respect throughout the community (
more
)
When you
register
for the tutorial you may place a check-mark
alongside one or more of the above ten (10) optional topics.
There's also a place on the Registration Form to add
your own worded topic of interest.
The
word clarifications are:
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clarifications
Word
Clarifications:
The tutorial also includes
clarifications of the following words:
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cause |
creating |
space |
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effect |
manipulation |
control |
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manifesting |
completing |
abuse |
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helping |
caring |
lying |
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discipline |
ethics |
deceit |
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truth |
serving |
goal |
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standards |
belief |
consequence |
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purpose |
incomplete |
thwarting |
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sabotage |
support |
context |
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withhold |
perpetration |
acknowledgment |
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intention |
integrity |
covert |
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This tutorial is for
spouses or significant others
of all law enforcement professionals.
A tutorial participant must submit a statement
of
Eligibility.
The
tutorial is presented free as a community service.
It is only for those relating with law enforcement
professionals.
how
The
way the tutorial works is:
-
Read
the first of the
three (3)
required topics (approx
fifteen minutes per topic)
- Post your
comments/reactions about it on a
password protected message
board.
- Return to the
message board in about 12 hours to read the tutorial
coach's comments/feedback to your post.
- Reply to the
coach's comments and questions through to mutual
satisfaction (some conversations require dozens
of message board posts).
- Continue with the
next topic.
If
you are concerned about
privacy
you may request a Private
Message Board (PMB). There is a non refundable fee
of $100 for this private service. With a PMB
others, especially other tutorial participants, will not be able to read your
conversations with the tutorial coach. However, you
will be able to read but not post to other
participant's posts. Click
here
to pay for this option.
Keep in mind the tutorial only works if you are
wiling to be totally open and honest with the
coach. There is considerable value to be gotten
from reading other participant's posts and in
allowing them to read yours.
The topics
stimulate engaging interactions between you and the
communication skills coach.
To
ensure optimum personal attention only a handful
of active tutorial participants are allowed at any
one time.
If we are full the
Registration Form will
read at the top,
"The tutorial is presently
full".
Once a participant gets the hang of posting and
replying to the message board they are encouraged
to share specific professional, personnel,
relationship problems; other participants are welcome to
post feedback. The
Private
Message Board does not
allow other participants to read or comment on
your posts.
The
tutorial is designed and coached by a former US
Navy UDT member ( now called SEALs ) who is also a
qualified submariner and 2nd Class Hard Hat Diver.
The coach left the Navy to attended college and
graduated from R.O.T.C. with honors and received a
Regular Commission in the Army. The coach served
two tours in Vietnam leading Army airborne
infantry units. For the past 27 years the tutorial
coach has been a communication skills consultant.
He also taught speech/communication courses
part-time at the University of Hawaii.
The
tutorial consists of the best from academic,
business, military, and various other positive
results-oriented team/leadership communication
models. The central theme throughout the tutorial
is teamwork. It is non sectarian and non
political.
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promise
The
promise of the tutorial:
I promise if you complete the
tutorial you will find yourself communicating
effectively more often with
your spouse, other officers and the police community members, and
your family. Effectively here means,
through-to-mutual-satisfaction.
Kerrith
H. (Kerry) King
Pres. Community Communications
Tutorial Coach
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cost
How
much does it cost?
The Communication Skills Tutorial for
Police Spouses is free.
It is paid
for by
workshop and consultation fees and
donations.
Once you start
the tutorial you'll be given a password that
entitles you to consulting, feedback/coaching
through one of our message boards.
Private
Message Board (PMB)
optional
If
you wish you may request your own Private
Message Board. This means that
other tutorial
participants will not be able to read your
conversations with the tutorial coach. There is a
nonrefundable fee of $100 for this private service.
Keep in mind the tutorial only works if you are
willing to be totally open and honest with the
coach. There is considerable value to be gotten
from reading other participant's posts and in
allowing them to read and comment on yours.
One advantage to
having a PMB is that you will also have the
password to the Police Tutorial Message Board
(PTMB). This means you will be able to read
other's posts but not reply to them.
Note: Both police
officers and spouses use the same Police Tutorial
Message Board. If a police officer is doing the
tutorial using the PTMB and the officer's spouse is
doing the tutorial using the PMB the spouse will
be able to read the officer's posts but the officer
will not be able to read the spouse's posts.
Click
here
to pay for this option. Upon paying you'll be
taken to the
Registration Form.
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