The Clearing Process (more)

Examples of communication breakdowns due to incompletes:

  • Your leadership-communication skills (your support skills) have been causing your child to get poor grades. They can remember a time when you were in communication with them and it hasn’t happened for a long time. Failing/misbehaving is a child’s unconscious way of drawing attention to the fact that you’ve lapsed into doing your imitation of communication. If getting poor grades or misbehaving doesn’t work they often turn to the “happiness” of drugs.
  • You say you want your spouse to do his/her share of the chores yet the results reveal something else needs to be handled first; there’s another communication in the space. He/she is communicating something (non verbally) and you are not getting it so they’ll have to keep thwarting you until you complete the earlier communication. It’s your leadership-communication skills that are producing this result.
  • You thought you had an agreement with your friend to repay you some money but they haven’t. He/she gave you a clue, that they couldn’t be trusted to honor the agreement when you were lending it to them, but you missed it, you have a lifetime of unacknowledged communication breakdowns cluttering up your mind so you couldn’t see clearly. You were unconscious
  • You ask your spouse a question and it triggers upset and anger. It reveals that there is an incomplete (something left over from an earlier interaction, possibly even as far back as his/her childhood) in the space

These are examples of communication breakdowns. When you unconsciously drag an incomplete (previous less-than-satisfying communication) into a new conversation the incomplete occupies space and serves as a barrier to communication.

Most of us aren’t disciplined to keep a diary/journal in which one records each day’s wins and less-than-satisfying outcomes so as to start anew the next day. The Clearing Process is an excellent way to clean up (so to speak) life, to start anew. It works. It’s free.

There is also a Clearing Process for Professionals.